Anger as a Dis-ease

Posted on March 10, 2017 by tsandhage


When one is a love based person, becoming and angry person is a long, insidious process. When love is the norm, it can take years before the recognition that one is angry even becomes obvious. Love based people tend to love the angry and try to be understanding. However, prolonged periods of exposure to anger will eventually cause  most love based people to become infected. I call it an infection because, like an infection, I didn’t realize I was infected for years. I was also exposed during all this time I was oblivious to the anger. I knew something was off, I just didn’t know what. I still felt loving and kind most of the time. It was only rarely I felt anger and that’s normal. Right?
After many, many years, I decided I needed a break from the anger around me. By this time, I knew the anger was there, I just hadn’t realized I was infected. I has taken about 2 years away and I find myself constantly coming back to being angry. Why? I’m where I’m happiest. What is wrong?
Finally, today, it hit me. I am acting just like the angry people I’ve left behind. I can’t leave them behind because I’ve become angry too; a hateful, vindictive, vengeful kind of angry. I’ve never felt this way in my entire life. To be clear, I’m not saying one or two people infected me. This is probably a lifetime of anger exposure which has finally become invasive enough for me to feel it. I’m hoping that, if it took this long to have a noticeable effect, I can wipe it out fairly quickly. On the other hand, the roots may be deep and difficult to discover.
As in anything, recognition is the first step to resolve the issue. I will have to let you know how this turns out since I’m just beginning the process of removing the infection. I’m hopeful that recognition is the hardest part and that the recovery will happen quickly.

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I Forgive Myself

Posted on March 3, 2017 by tsandhage


Most of us know we have something to give to the world. We may or may not know what that something is but we always know there is a reason for our being here and it isn’t because of an accidental pregnancy.
Like many of the people who know they have something to give, I have never really known what I’m here to do. On the other hand, I know I’m here to teach. I don’t know what I’m supposed to teach exactly; I just know I’m supposed to teach. I suspect I’m supposed to teach about loving ourselves and giving our gifts to the world in such a way as to maintain our self-love while providing a useful gift. Truthfully, that’s a balancing act I’ve not achieved. Though I hear we teach what we most need to learn. I suspect that is part of what this blog is about, me talking about what I most need to learn and, hopefully, others learning from my experiences.
Today, I wrote up a Forgiveness Manifesto for myself and I wish to share it. It is not your normal forgiveness material. Most forgiveness things say I forgive myself for not …. Everything is written from the negative perspective. Since I know we draw into our lives more of what we talk about, I decided to write this manifesto from a positive perspective.
The Forgiveness Manifesto
I forgive myself for wanting people in my life who respect themselves and, therefore, others.
I forgive myself for wanting love, kindness, and gentleness in my life.
I forgive myself for wanting a peaceful and joyful life.
I forgive myself for wanting civilized, caring discussions around disagreements.
I forgive myself for learning as I go and needing time and experience to know what I want.
I forgive myself for knowing what I want and ignoring it.
I forgive myself for wanting time away from all responsibilities.
I forgive myself for wanting time to myself, a lot of time.
I forgive myself for needing time in Nature.
I forgive myself for letting others take responsibilitty for themselves.
I forgive myself for my anger for it shows me where I need stronger boundsaries.
I forgive myself for walking away from people and situations where there is no way for me to make a positive difference.
I forgive myself for knowing some of what I want and knowing there’s no way for me to get it and rely in any finacial way on others.
I fogive myself for being afraid to step into my power even though I’m unsure where my power lies.
I forgive myself for relying on humans and animals to meet my emotional needs.
I forgive myself for turning away from God even when I knew/know that’s where all my answers lie.
I forgive myself for taking on the beliefs and perspectives of others.
I forgive myself for often compromising myself to keep/make others happy.
I forgive myself for thinking I have the power or responsibility to make others happy.
I forgive myself for failing to put forth the effort to do the things I think I might be good at doing.
I forgive myself for listening to other’s limited view of me.
I forgive myself for every way I have failed myself.
I forgive myself.  ~ Therese Sandhage
So often when we do forgiveness things we talk about the ways in which we need to be more understanding. If that gives you value, then by all means, go for it. Being more understanding tends to make me feel badly about myself. I berate myself for having needs and not putting others before myself. If I’m always putting myself last then I have nothing to give to others so there is no way I can care for their needs. That is why I wrote this manifesto the way I did. It empowers me to do what I need to do so I can be available for others.
I don’t want to judge, be critical, disrespect others. But I become those things when I don’t take care of myself. If I constantly listen to someone disrespect those around them and be unwilling to take any responsibility for their actions then I become critical and judging. At that point, I need to learn to cut off communication.
So, the above manifesto is for me. It is to build my foundation so I can be the Truth of who I was born to be; who I am at my core. I’m sure I will fail, more often than not, before I get it right. Eventuallly, I will form new habits around these thoughts. I will turn each of these statements into an “I deserve” statement in the hopes of creating a new belief system for myself. I hope this helps some of you find a way to create your own manifesto to become your complete, awesome wholeness.

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Perfection and Belief Systems

Posted on February 24, 2017 by tsandhage


“You are perfect. It is because of all the messages adopted from outside influences that make you less than your true perfection. Let go of all the ‘stuff’ you’ve acquired in your heads and bodies and get closer to your true perfection.” ~ Therese Sandhage
This is a realization I’ve had and forgotten many times. I’m always shocked to remember I am perfect. Admittedly, I read similar things about perfection in books and in quotes but the little voices in my head always say the quote will be true when I no longer hold onto injustices, can be proactive in all situations, and nothing bothers me. It’s always a striving, someplace I will be in the future. The thing is, we are each born perfect. Everything that happens, including interactions with every person, place, thing we’ve encountered in our lives, contributes to the continuance of our perfection or we adapt an external belief which takes away from our perfection.
While this realization has been with me for some time, I still revert to feeling badly and beating up on myself for perceived wrongdoings. However, I do keep coming back to the realization of my perfection and the perfection of everyone else at a Soul level. I’ve released many things I’ve held onto for years; things I wanted other people to feel sorry they did to me.
Whether someone intentionally seeks to harm me becomes less relevant when I realize everything people do is about them. If I take on other people’s ideas of who I am and how I need to act then I am allowing them to influence my perfection. If their opinions resonate with me and increase my positive self-image then it is possible I want to adopt those beliefs. I do not have to adopt any of the beliefs, I can adopt some of the beliefs, or I can adopt a modified version of the beliefs.
If a person is upset with me, it is not about me. It is about them. When someone starts yelling at me, I realize I’ve challenged one of their belief systems. If they need me to agree with them that implies, to me, they are unsure of themselves. I do not have to agree with someone to like them.
Some ways to identify our belief systems are to watch other people, either by people watching or by watching TV. While TV is contrived, it does a good job of taking beliefs and exaggerating them to make a point. If I see something on TV which causes a strong reaction then I know I’ve had a belief system confirmed or challeged. That gives me the opportunity to evaluate whether the belief is something I want to keep, modify, or release. There have been many times when I’ve suddenly realized it was time to release a belief  which has served me well for many years. I know it is important for me to look at all of my beliefs whether they are about people, animals, the environment, food, shelter, clothing, politics, religion, spirituality, health, sex, exercise, music, I could go on and on. The point is to look at everything. It’s especially important I do not refrain from looking at a subject, especially any I feel are ‘wrong’ to question. For me, it is important to look closely at any subject which has a lot of dogma around it. It’s equally important, to me, to not be dogmatic in my beliefs. I must be willing to change my beliefs as I learn and grow even if they directly contradict a previously held belief.
I believe that, as long as my belief system is based in love and compassion, I am on the right track. It is only when I feel fearful that I get angry and sef-absorbed, Fear limits what I can see as solutions. It clouds my judgment. I become absorbed by my fear and lose my compassion for myself and others. I do not believe we can hold fear and love at the same time. I prefer the way love feels so I believe it is the better option for me. What do you believe? Why?

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3 Ways of Being in the World

Posted on February 10, 2017 by tsandhage


I’ve found there are basically 3 ways of being in the world: Reactive, Proactive, and Self-Aware. Reactive means a situation occurs and I have a habitual reaction to it. Proactive means when the same situation occurs I have a reaction which gives me the result I desire. Self-awareness happens when the situation occurs and I feel empathy or no reaction.
As a reactive person, I am normally responding to life in the way I’ve been trained to see the world. I react the way other family members react. A reaction can be anything from screaming, yelling, crying, hitting, to complete withdrawal and leaving the situation, either physically, emotionally, or mentally. We learn reactive responses as children. We develop them to help us cope with the stresses of our lives. If they work, and sometimes, even if they don’t, we internalize them to such a degree they become habits. In the world of psychology, the situations are called “triggers” because they trigger a consistent reaction within us.
Once we develop enough self-awareness to recognize which situations cause specific reactions, we are left with the choice of whether to change our behavior. If we choose to make a change, we must decide how we will react in the future. Once we can consciously choose our reaction it can become proactive.
Proactive means we choose to be aware of what is happening around us so we can, often, diffuse situations. When being proactive we not only are aware of our reactions but we are aware of the actions of everyone around us. In this place, we can help create calm amid chaos, look at various angles of a situation, and make reasoned decisions without letting ours or other’s emotions and reactions influence us. Proactive means situations, which use to generate a habitual response, no longer generate any visible emotional response. As this happens, new scenarios will present themselves which will trigger old responses. This is a training process and takes time to learn. When I find myself realizing old triggers no longer affect me, I know I am on the path to more self-awareness.
I don’t know if anyone ever achieves complete self-awareness. I know I haven’t. There are areas where I’m very self-aware, some where I’m proactive, and some where I am still reactive. Luckily, I catch myself more quickly in the reactive situations so I can, often stop myself. Once stopped, I then figure out what is being triggered within me. The “triggered” part of myself still has healing work to do. Most of my issues center around feelings of abandonment. This is an issue for many people. Self-love can be difficult. It is absolutely necessary to achieve complete self-awareness. We are the only ones who can love us enough to heal us. Other’s love is nice but it will not fill the holes within.
The holes within happen to us as children. I believe we are born whole, complete.The external influences begin to tell us who we are, what we lack, how we fail to complete or fulfill someone else. Because of these external expectations, over which we have no control, we begin to feel deficient. The outside world confirms this new knowledge and tells if we’d only do better everything will be alright. We internalize this message. Some of us even begin to believe we are responsible for everything:  divorce, other’s happiness, death, attacks against ourselves or others. I find it amazing we function at all.
I was blessed to experience three days of complete self-awareness. Though I have not achieved it since, I know where I’m going and I understand what I must do to get there. It is a process  and I’m developing a love of the process. During those three days I was fearless. If someone was hurt, angry, or upset, all I could feel was an overwhelming love for them. I call it overwhelming because I’ve never felt anything so strongly and it took over my body. I felt like my body wasn’t big enough to hold my heart. I also noticed, when this feeling would come over me, the other person calmed and seemed to feel better even though I’d done and said nothing. When I spoke, the quality of my voice was noticeable, even to me. I could hear love with every word I spoke. I wondered if others would hear it and, from their comments, I soon found out they did. My husband, who was in another country, commented on my voice the first time we talked. He commented that I sounded so happy and calm and I could hear the emotion in his voice. I could tell he really wanted to be near me because of my complete self-awareness. I noticed my emotions were more calm. My happiness wasn’t as gleeful as before and sadness wasn’t heart wrenching. I noticed missing the highs and lows and being unsure which state is better.
After a couple of days, I notice the fears of others beginning to chip away at me and bring forth my old fears (triggers). I’m glad for the experience. I want to achieve that place again. In time, I believe I will. Until then, I will continue towards loving myself and filling the holes  within so I will be complete and can love completely.

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Hidden Emotions

Posted on February 3, 2017 by tsandhage


I’ve spent a good portion of my life ignoring and stuffing my emotions. Now, if you had asked me if this was true even a year ago, I would have said, “No.” I thought I was aware of my emotions and dealt with them. So, when a person I knew said I was angry, I thought she was nuts. I wasn’t angry. I was happy and looking for the positive in my life. She kept insisting I was angry and I finally let her go from my life because, as far as I could tell, I was only angry about her insisting I was angry.
Years later, last year in fact, I finally realized she was correct. Why was I angry? It was years of stuffing my feelings and not having any boundaries. I would guess there are many people who do those two things. It becomes a habit and we get to the point where we don’t even realize we are doing it. I’ve gotten so good at it that I find myself smiling as I’m doing it.
Even though I’ve realized I have stuffed emotions and I’m learning to set boundaries in my life, my initial habit is to stuff my feelings any time they are ruffled. Thankfully, I’m realizing this and I am building a new habit of acknowledging how I feel and letting it out to the best of my ability. I’m not good with yelling/screaming to release my anger. I’m not talking about yelling at people who have triggered me but yelling in a safe space to release the feeling. I find my throat hurts when I yell or scream. So, I tend to use other measures like growling or stomping my feet. I can’t throw things because it ticks me off worse to have to pick up whatever I’ve thrown.
New habits take time. I’m learning and I’m growing. My recognition of what is happening within me is becoming quicker. I know the deeper message is to uncover what need I have which needs to be met; something I need to give to myself. I’m getting pretty good at being kind to myself and doing things I love to do. I still have guilt around taking care of me but I’m pushing forward and I’m feeling less guilty about treating myself well.
I’ve also become aware of the need to let go of my interpretation of what is happening around me. I, and so many people I know, spend a lot of time having conversations with people who aren’t present. We’re trying to figure out why they do what they do, what they meant by something they said/did, what all the possible scenarios are for everything that takes place around us. I don’t want to do that anymore. I want to live with a peaceful mind. I want to let other people do whatever they need to do for themselves and I don’t want to give it a thought. I want to observe/hear what is happening and attach no meaning to it. I’m just beginning to build the habit of attaching no meaning to what I observe. I find it’s challenging because, once I made the decision, my mind quickly became active with bringing up all sorts of past experiences where it had been important for me to attach meaning to the situation. Yes, it was important to me at that time. It is no longer important to me. My mind is having a hard time wrapping itself around the concept of observing without attaching. I wonder, is there anyone out there who has been able to observe without attaching to the observation? How long did it take you to learn to do that?

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Love vs Fear

Posted on February 1, 2017 by tsandhage


I have found all my fears are what cause negativity in my life. When I am able to walk fearlessly into life, I have no anger, frustration, or unhappiness of any kind. I find amusement in things which upset me when I am feeling fearful. So, I have come to the belief “Fear is the root of all negativity.”
I believe we are afraid of our inner power. Power lies in love. I know I’ve gone many years without truly loving myself. And, even as I learn to love more fully of myself, I find more fears which hold me back from my full potential. Very few of us were raised in Unconditional Love. I’m sure someone, somewhere has been but I’ve not met them.
So, when it comes to loving ourselves, most of us have no role models. We each do the best we can at any given point in time. Sometimes the love wins and sometimes the fear wins. The goal is to let the love become the winner in the majority of our lives.
As I’ve found more love and forgiveness for myself, I’ve found I react differently to other people. I’ve  also noticed other people react differently to me as well. I feel calmer, more loving, respectful, and I’m more willing to listen. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” I use to feel, “Yeah, but I’d like someone to care about me first for a change.” While this feeling is valid, it occurred to me I can care about me! Besides, why would someone else care about me if I don’t. So, I began the process of looking inward, caring about my thoughts and feelings, and doing things which honored myself. This process is different for everyone. This process is unending. This process has helped me begin loving myself. As a direct result of loving myself more, I am less attached to other’s way of being in this world. If someone is upset, happy, crying, loving, I can be with them without getting embroiled in their emotions.
Fear brings stagnation and rigidity into our lives. It deteriorates our brains and our bodies. Love brings fluidity, freedom, and flexibility to us. Our brains grow and our bodies retain health. Have you ever noticed how some people appear much older than their actual age while others never seem to age? The difference is in their attitudes. Someone who appears younger than they are will be excited about life and learning. They enjoy being happy and look for the good in their lives. I worked in an Assisted Living/Retirement facility for a few years. It is where I first noticed how important attitude is in our health. Those who are more positive look for things they can do to imporve all of life’s situations. Those who are less positive simply said, “I can’t” when presented wtih possibilities.
Part of learning to love myself has been learning to let other people be responsible for their lives. I take responsibility for my life and that is my only responsibility.It has been challenging to let go of feeling responsible for the world, everyone in it, and everything eeryone does. I interpreted my environment as telling me I was responsible for everyone and everything even though I had no control of others. There were consequences to not being able to control another’s actions. I’m sure there are many who have had similar experiences.
Letting go of that responsibiliy brings forth fear. What will happen? Will I be punished? As a child, punishment comes with taking responsibililty as well as not assuming responsibility – there is no “win.” Learning to love ourselves, without judgment is the only antidote. Staying true to ourselves, accepting the consequences, and standing strong in our truth is the best we can ever hope to do.
Our power comes from love. Love towards ourselves makes us feel more loving towards others and in general.

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Tired But Not Sleepy

Posted on January 13, 2017 by tsandhage


I have begun to take short walks. My achilles tendon no longer bothers me. It hasn’t for some time but it was too hot for me to walk so I didn’t. After I started traveling again, I wasn’t feeling motivated so it’s only recently I’ve taken to walking again. I stroll so don’t get any ideas of me power walking or even exercising. Of course, strolling is more than I’ve done in a long time so this is exercising for me. Besides, I’m more interested in simply moving than exercising to accomplish a mission/goal.
So, anyway, I’ve begun strolling a short distance in the mornings and I’m enjoying it. In the afternoons I will sometimes feel tired from the extra effort in my day. But I often don’t feel tired enough to sleep. When I feel this way, I’ve found I can meditate and feel rested. Sometimes I fall asleep and sometimes I don’t. I know many people say one must meditate in a sitting position. I don’t do well with rules so I tend to meditate in my recliner. Recently, I have decided to try meditating while sitting. Interestingly, I don’t notice any difference. Whether in the recliner or sitting, I meditate and then “come to” not knowing whether I’ve been asleep or wide awake. Since I’m sitting upright, I’m guessing I wasn’t sleeping. The only difference I notice between sitting vs reclining is after sitting my physical body feels fatigued from the effort of holding itself upright.
Today is a day of some soreness. I still get body pain for no apparent reason. I have begun to be kinder to myself and take some aspirin instead of suffering through the discomfort. I sleep better when I’m not uncomfortable. Part of me thinks it’s the extra activity of walking that is bringing on the discomfort. That would be understandable. I don’t know if it’s true or not because there have been days where I’ve walked and there was no discomfort later in the day. It could be sunny days vs overcast days. When the sun is out, I’m more likely to go outside and sit in a chair to enjoy. This means I will get up and go in/out of the RV to get water, go to the bathroom, change clothes to get more comfortable, remember something I left inside that I want outside, etc. In other words, on sunny days, I tend to be more active overall than on overcast days. I do think the discomfort is probably activity related. Again, maybe not. Maybe I should give up thinking about why the discomfort exists and simply accept its presence. That sounds like a good idea. 🙂 After all, the discomfort is not important. It’s what I do to take care of myself which is important.

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Absence makes the heart grow fonder

Posted on January 7, 2017 by tsandhage


It’s been many months since I’ve written. I’ve had lots I could have written about but I chose to stay silent. I’m back on the road and feeling compelled to write now, which I consider a good sign.
I expected to spend my Summer in Indiana and I expected to be able to be outside because my ability to tolerate heat had increased. I did not expect the temperatures to be in the 90’s. I spent the Summer inside trying to stay cool.
I did get some things done so I will not need to return to Indiana in the near future. I got the things fixed on my RV which were not working. I had an Invertor installed so I can use my outlets in my RV while boondocking. I also bought several AGM batteries and installed those. Jeff built me a battery box to contain them. This means I am free to travel and learn how I want to live. Do I like being out in the middle of nowhere? I suspect I will. Do I like being hooked up? I suspect I will want hookups if the weather is too hot or cold.
I got a late start leaving Indiana so I am not out West where I had hoped to be this Winter. I am South in Louisiana where I will be staying until February so I can stay warm. I have been studying wind patterns and how they affect temperatures and weather. The East end of lower LA and further East is temperate this time of year and doesn’t get dramatically bad storms or cold weather very often. Anything West of here until you get to Western Arizona, gets cold more often during the Winter than if one is East of that imaginary line. So, here I sit until February when the weather will change and I will head West again.
This year I will not be heading back to Indiana so I will be free to explore different destinations and altitudes to determine what works for me. I’m excited to enter this phase of my learning. I hope to be able to find weather which suits me so I will feel good enough to spend more time outdoors and, hopefully, begin to build endurance. I’ve spent so many years in a recliner, I wear out more quickly than I desire. I still have strength but endurance is less. Although, even as I write that, I know there are days where I can go as long as I want with no ill effects so it must be more about staying in a climate that is conducive to me being active. So, that is why I’m excited to learn about weather, temperature, and elevation and how I am affected by those things. Or, maybe my endurance isn’t related to anything which I can control and it just depends on how my body if feeling at any given time. I’ll find out.
Since I am heading West in February, I will be able to make it to Arizona and spend the Winter in Quartzsite. If you don’t know, Quartzsite is like the Mecca of places to be for RV’ers in the Winter. There is a very large, around a million RV’s, that gather there every year for the Rock and Gem show. I also believe they have a RV event but I’m not sure. There are tents everywhere and, from my understanding, whatever you desire can be found in Quartzsite during this event. While I’m not excited about the crowds, it will be one of those things I will want to experience once. Even as crowded as the town will be, there are many places where a person can get away from the crowds.
Right now, Fontainebleu State Park is the perfect place for me. It’s beautiful, on a large lake, and just outside of New Orleans. I’ve also set myself up so I don’t need wifi to do these blogs so I should be able to write more. We’ll see what happens on that front. 🙂

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Practicing vs Living Meditation

Posted on April 15, 2016 by tsandhage

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This is a post from some time ago yet is still relevant. For whatever reason, I thought I’d posted it yet I had not. So, here it is.

I’ve been meditating for a number of years. I’ve been developing a system which allows me to meditate regardless of what I’m doing. Sometimes I am better at this than others. Lately, my meditation is taking on a different feel. While this is not something I can yet describe, I definitely feel the difference. I feel like I am able to stay in a meditative state the majority of the time without trying. When negative thoughts come up, I simply tell them, “I’ve heard this before” and dismiss them. I realize this is my Ego trying to get my attention. I understand that my body is use to operating from a feeling of anxiety the majority of the time. I understand I have changed the rules and started a new process of calm, centered behavior that really doesn’t have a lot to say. I understand how this can be upsetting to my Ego because I’m changing all the rules. However, I’m still changing all the rules; my Ego will get use to the new rules.
I’ve dealt with stress the majority of my life. I’ve been diagnosed as being stressed on multiple occassions. At the time, I thought this meant I was making stuff up and overreacting. I know better now. I also understand the illnesses I have exhibited in recent years are due to the continuation of this stress throughout my life. I understand when the stress began and it is time for the stress to be released. It’s very challenging to let go of stress. We get use to it. We miss it when it’s not present. It’s, I believe, the primary reason people report being bored. When there is nothing to distract us from ourselves, we are left with only ourselves upon which to focus. I believe this is why some people get so stressed about meditation. Going within can be very scary. There are all those emotions we’ve been stuffing for so many years and they start to bubble towards to surface. How can we continue to live our lives if we have all the emotions surfacing? We can’t. Therefore, meditation becomes stressful and only becomes easy when we go into those emotions.
I’ve am experiencing a need for sleep. I get enough sleep at night, and I’m not highly active during the day, since I’m letting my achilles tendon heal, yet I find the need for naps during the day. Yes, you read that correctly. Multiple naps are sometimes needed in order for me to not feel tired and I still sleep well at night. Obviously, I need the sleep. I know, for me, needing lots of sleep means I am going through a spiritual growing period. I don’t enjoy needing lots of sleep because it reminds me of when I was sick and I find that stressful. I have to remind myself that I no longer need the sleep unless I’m experiencing growth and that it is for my highest good. Once I remember, the stress subsides, and I am able to move through the growing process more quickly than when I am fighting it.
I believe my recent growth spurt has been why I am able to take my meditation practice more fully into my everyday life without thinking about it so much. It’s becoming who I am rather than something I practice. This is a wonderful feeling and I am enjoying the unfolding of the discoveries. As part of this process, I am learning I am more sensitive to what is happening around me; other people’s feelings. In the past, this would have been draining for me. However, I am learning to go through the feelings and let them teach me how to release those areas which are triggered within me. Now, I feel the feelings, notice if they are triggering me in any way, and either release those triggered areas or simply allow the feeling to pass through without affecting me.
I don’t believe I’ve operated from this place before. I like the fluidity of it, am tripped up sometimes but recover more quickly than ever before, and find myself feeling like I’m an observer of everything. The biggest thing I’ve noticed is my mind is so quiet. I literally find myself thinking about nothing; there are no thoughts running through my head. When I notice, I chuckle. I know that I’m living here on Earth but a part of me feels like I’m living in some sort of in between place. I like the in between place.
Now, my biggest trigger is when I feel pulled back into the “reality” of Earth; when people are angry and reactive. I know part of my journey is to help people let go of the anger and reactivity. I haven’t figured out how to do this yet. I’m sure I will figure it out in time.
How do you get people to stop being angry and reactive so they can begin to think and feel and allow themselves to work through their process instead of simply reacting to their process? Is there something you feel people could do, when you are reactive, which would help calm you and allow you to begin thinking through the process? I’m interested in hearing what works for you.

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Anger Management?

Posted on March 30, 2016 by tsandhage

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For a little over a week, I’ve been waking up mad. I don’t have angry dreams or nightmares, I’m simply waking up with anger thoughts running through my head. And, actually, I’m not even mad. None of these thoughts are ones that make me mad. I’ve worked through forgiveness and I don’t feel anger when I look closely at the thoughts. So, you can imagine my confusioin as to why I’m having the thoughts.
Finally, I read something that triggered the memory that I am able to feel others pain. When I did individual Feldenkrais sessions, I could feel my client’s pain. This was helpful in that I knew exactly what was going on. I found I could work through the pain in my body and release it. Once I was able to do this, the client no longer experienced the pain. It was as if I was able to clear it from their body by clearing  it from mine.
It seems reasonable that, if I can do this with physical pain, why wouldn’t I be able to do this with emotional pain. Now, I’m not saying I can clear the world’s hurts by clearing it from within myself but it made sense to me that I might be feeling the pain of the world. The only way the Universe would be able to help me understand is by having me relive experiences which had been painful to me. That made sense. Kind of like how a Medium receives messages, from the other side, which shows things which have happened in the Medium’s life so they have an idea of what is happening in the client’s life.
So, I have been fine tuning how to clear the emotional anger from myself and it is working. To expand upon this, I have begun holding the intention that all Beings be encouraged to transmute their energies into Love and Light. I’m doing it this way because, if someone wants to hold onto their pain, they can. I am simply offering an option. Some people want to hold onto their hate and anger while others wish to release their hate and anger and still others don’t know how to release their hate and anger. This allows everyone to work through their hate and anger in their own way with Love and Light being an option.
I am meditating on this every night before I go to sleep because I know, while I’m asleep, the intention will be even stronger. I also meditate on this when I wake in the morning to start my day off from a place of Love and Light. Has the angry feeling left? For the most part, yes. Though I do still have the angry thoughts come into my mind. As soon as I catch them, I begin setting my intention and the feelings transmute.
This morning, while I was meditating on this, I had an interesting experience. I was consumed with the feeling I was releasing a majority, if not all, of my pain from my life. I felt sad at all the pain I’ve felt but it was a sadness mixed with love for all the lessons. I didn’t cry, which I thought was odd. When the releasing passed, I felt a calmness I don’t think I’ve experienced before. I shall have to wait to see how this plays out. I have noticed it has not stopped the angry feelings coming through. But I did notice I remembered what was happening more quickly.
How do you love yourself through anger? Have you managed to forgive yourself for all the anger you feel or have felt in your life? Have you noticed the lessons and what they have tried to teach you? Do you feel thankful for those lessons?

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